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| There are a lot of things i look for in a relationship, but there are also things that are very important for me to consider when looking out for one. I thought a lot about what i really want in a relationship and what would make a successful one. I thought of 3 important things which i really look for in that special person. (For some reason they all start with the letter "C", i thought that was quite genius of me because it makes it easier for me to remember, haha) Comfort
I feel that being comfortable with a person is key. There are situations when you really like someone, but not feel comfortable spending time with them. This situation can be described in early stages of relationship when it is merely a crush, and you want to put on the best image of that person. However, this prevents you from being honest between yourself and that person. If you dont find yourself comfortable with a person after some time, there wont be much compatibility in the future. I think no matter how much you like a person and how much you wish for a successful relationship with them, without finding comfort with each other, it wont last long. Community
Liking one another and having each other is good. Some people believe that "That special someone is all that i need", but i think not. Finding the suitable community of friends and families between the both of yours is important. You might believe that special someone is sufficient enough, but honestly i think that sooner or later you will get bored with each other if it is just the two of you. Friends bring excitement in our lives. Being able to share that excitement and life will bring a new joy between the two of you. Christ
If you think about it, you are putting two sinners together (this one's from mr. chris chan ;D). Without Christ in the center of your lives, simply said, it will be hard, and if not, an unsuccessful and unfruitful one. ***************************************************************
Note: These are things that "I" find important to me. It may or may not apply to you since everyone comes from a different background with different mindsets. I am blogging for the joy of blogging and sharing "my" own insights and opinions.
*************************************************************** Now there are other things which i look for in a person, but the importance of these does not replace the 3 listed above. Some things i do look for (and i will not list them all since that will take awhile and it strays away from the main point of this post) are:
- Speaks Chinese (fluent enough to carry out a conversation)
- Loves Taiwan, since i find it as such an enjoyable place to be
- Musical and plays an instrument Who knows if i'll ever meet the ideal girl with all the characteristics i look for. And maybe i might discover something i like which i didnt before. I feel that the top 3 importances will be what i will be truly looking for in the future. If i meet someone with 'Comfort', 'Community', and 'Christ', everything else which i look for will be worth sacrificing for. | | |
| I was talking with my friend Christien and she shared about this sermon she heard which got her thinking quite a bit. I decide to listen to the message as well, and indeed it is quite honest, convicting, and powerful. If you have some free time, really consider listening to this. Speaker: Paul Washer
Topic: Truth about American Christianity
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuabITeO4l8 *Disclaimer: This message will not change your life, but it will most likely get you to evaluate yourself of where you are as people so-called "Christians". You live life according to your own decisions. It is a blessing that we have free will, but at the same time, as human beings, we do not always make the wisest choice. This blessing can then become a curse proving as our greatest downfall (I guess that's why we need Jesus!). This is some intense stuff, but check it out, it's good. I definately got new insights on what real christianity is. However, living it out will be the most difficult challenge. "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast" -Eph. 2:8-9 As the verse says, we are saved through faith, and not by works. At the same time, people who claim themselves to be "christians", is there any evidence of the faith? | | |
| I cried. The last time i really cried which i recall was 2 summers ago in taiwan. Love hurts? Sounds cliche, but i think its so true. When you really try to love and care for someone, i think hurting them sometimes come into the process. But just because it may seem hurtful, does not mean that it is harmful. I think i've sacrificed alot to this point. I really feel like trying to make justifications towards my actions, but i continue to hold myself back. Thats because i know, words that come out of my mouth will only sound like excuses, and i simply dont want to make any excuses. I think when you really want to care for someone, its really just accepting the undesirable reactions. Thats what Jesus did. He loved us so much and made absolutely no excuses, accepting all scorns which was thrown at him. I'm not saying i'm Jesus, actually i'm far from it. But i want to say that i do care for peoples feelings. Of course there were mistakes in how i approached things, but i'm not perfect you know. I know there were some misunderstandings, but its reasonable to me since people can only judge you by what you say to them. I think people naturally assume that the truth is told to each other, especially when the word "honestly" is used. Maybe all of this is for a better good, thats what i'm hoping for at least. It may hurt alot right now, but slowly they might understand my real intentions. I do think i told some unnecessary lies though. But if you really stood in my shoes, sometimes these kinda lies are just unavoidable. All in all, there's usually a reason for how i do things. You may not necessary agree with me, but thats who i am. If i do anything, i want to do it properly and right, even if it means starting from scratch. I dont think i'm the type that just neglect peoples feeling for no reason. Its painful, especially for me, but my intention is genuine, and maybe one day they will understand. | | |
| If i ever ruined any friendship in my life, this is probably my second. Sometimes people just make mistakes
Sometimes the mistakes are bigger than others
Sometimes these mistakes are hard or impossible to mend I think i've learn a very good lesson today. And i bought it for a very cheap price. However it is because i was on the end of the wrong-doing (or ripping the other person off), i am no doubt the bad guy. I do feel horrible, cuz i would like to think that i am a very caring person..turns out that i'm not the type of person you may think i am. One thing i do hope is that i dont ruin the christian name. People are still people though, we simply make mistakes. Dont think just because i'm christian, that i'm a good person. In fact, i may be the exact opposite. Funny how this happened right before i'm leaving for Hawaii. How can i uplift God's name when i'm in this state of mind. I ask for forgiveness for my shortcomings. I know God has already forgiven me, but the person hurt may not think the same. This is one thing i hate. I hate loosing friendships. I hate it even more when i am the one destroying it. But i'm not going to say that i hate myself, because i dont... We are humans, and making mistakes is what we do... | | |
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